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Do You Limit What You Share About Yourself On Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn?

shhh Last week on Twitter, Viveka von Rosen [@linkedinexpert], Peggy Dolane [@freerangemom] and I [@marismith] hosted the first “#lion” Twitter discussion: a tweet-in that asked the question: How open a networker are you on LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter?.

[#lion = LinkedIn Open Networker – a person who grows their network as broadly as possible.]

This week we’re continuing the #lion conversation with this question:

Do you limit what you share about yourself on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn?

To get the conversation started, here’s some food for thought:

  • Lisa Nova poked fun at the over-tweeters among us in her YouTube satire Twitter Whore (viewed by over 730,000 to date.) None of us want to be that person, do we?
  • Smart businesses know that a real person tweeting will win you more loyal followers. Just ask Scott Monty at Ford, @Zappos’ CEO, Tony Hsieh, or @TypeAMom, Kelby Carr who wrote a great post about this issue last summer.
  • On a more serious note, Canadian child protection authorities were contacted by Twitter recently when a mother made comments about how she might get her children to go to sleep.

There are many aspects of my life I choose not to Tweet about. Everything I do online and offline is with deliberate and strategic intent. “Mindful” you might call it. My underlying questions when sharing are “Would I be comfortable with this information being on the front page of the New York Times? (or found in a Google Search!)” and/or “Would I be proud for my grandchildren to read this information in 20-30 years’ time?”

Here’s the thing, I don’t believe you need to live in a glass house. Sure, many business owners and independent professionals have personal lives very much merged with their personal lives; the lines are blurred between personal and professional. BUT, you must still have a private life as I wrote about here last year.

Does your tweeting have any limits? [Did you know every single tweet is an individual web page indexed by Google?!] Or do you share every minute detail of your life online? Or, perhaps you save more personal information for Facebook and Twitter and keep LinkedIn strictly business?

image Join Viveka, Peggy and Mari LIVE on Twitter on Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5pm PT / 8pm ET to explore more about the pros and cons of open vs. strategic networking.

HERE’S HOW: To read and participate in the live networking tweet-in, log in with your Twitter username at and enter the room for #lion.


[Or, watch the tweets at this search string and chip in with your own #lion tweets from your favorite Twitter app.]

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[Blog jointly written by Peggy Dolane and Mari Smith.]

image Peggy Dolane, @freerangemom:

Peggy Dolane,  principal at Provient Marketing, designs  affordable marketing programs and writes engaging copy that turns your audience into customers.


Viveka von Rosen, @linkedinexpert:

Viveka Von Rosen is the CSMO (Chief Social Media Officer) of Integrated Alliances, and the Social Media and Marketing Director for The Executive Center.  A victim of expensive and ineffective traditional marketing, Viveka was able to double TEC’s business through social and F2F (face to face) networking.  It is now her passion in life to help others build their businesses through social media strategies. 

image Mari Smith, @marismith:  


Mari Smith is a Relationship Marketing Specialist and Social Media Business Coach.  Dubbed the Pied Piper of Facebook by Fast Company, Mari helps entrepreneurs grow their business profits using an integrated social marketing strategy with particular focus on Facebook and Twitter.

If you’re reading this post after the #lion Twitter discussion [quite possible as I’m posting it at DFW airport just as the discussion is starting, lol!] – you can still view the tweetstream here or here.

Mari Smith

Often referred to as “the Queen of Facebook,” Mari Smith is widely known as the Premier Facebook Marketing Expert and a top Social Media Thought Leader. Forbes describes Mari as, “… the preeminent Facebook expert. Even Facebook asks for her help.” IBM named Mari as one of seven women that are shaping digital marketing. Mari is an in-demand keynote speaker, corporate social media strategist, dynamic live webcast host, and popular brand ambassador. She is coauthor of Facebook Marketing: An Hour A Day, and author of The New Relationship Marketing.

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  2. JoLynn Braley | The Fit Shack on May 30, 2009 at 8:46 pm

    Hi Mari, how the heck are ya? 🙂

    I totally agree that you don’t need to be so transparent that you literally let it all hang out and disclose every little thing about your personal life and such when using Social Media. In fact I see this as being a major misconception about how to use social media – so many I have spoken to who currently aren’t using SM say that they don’t want to have to Tweet or FB about what they just ate and exactly what they are doing every minute.

    Like you said, there is a “mindfullness”, which I call using Social Media consciously (best way to live in general 😉 )….consciously communicating not only what will benefit you and others today, but any day to come in the future.

    Rock ON Mari, love your insights! 🙂


    JoLynn Braley | The Fit Shacks last blog post..Memorial Day Weekend and Now Bikini Season Begins!

  3. Chris on February 4, 2009 at 3:22 pm

    I’m probably an extreme case on limiting information. After bad experiences with a stalker (hacker) ex made my life hell for a couple of years, and friends who have dealt with identity theft, I’m very cautious about sharing personal information online (and even offline to a degree). Avoided the whole social networking thing til recently, and am finding it really, really hard to balance the transparency of social networking with my personal need for privacy and security.

    I joined Facebook, Twitter and a couple of other sites but only put in limited info and intentionally limit friends to a small circle. I use privacy features where available. I hesitate to mention anything that identifies where I live or where I will be. I don’t even list my location, birthday, or other details and I know that’s not good. I am having a really hard time getting past my “issues” and wonder if anyone else has similar difficulties.

  4. Misty Faucheux on February 3, 2009 at 10:24 pm

    I like sharing some of my life on Twitter, but not all of it. It’s just that I don’t know these people personally. It doesn’t mean that they’re bad people; it’s that it seems strange to share your most intimate details with people that you are not intimately involved with.

    Just my two cents.

    Misty Faucheux
    Social Media/Community Relations Manager,

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