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Choosing To Share My Private Journey – A Transparent Update


  1. Alan - Business Coach on August 5, 2010 at 12:44 pm


    Thanks for sharing about your life. And as a relationship coach, sharing your own relationship journey with others contributes to you and what you bring to your coaching.

    As a coach of other coaches, however, I've discovered that one of the biggest problems most coaches have is just exactly what you mentioned . . . how much to share.

    I had a radio program where I brought other coaches in for them to share what they were doing to help grow businesses, and help grow lives and results. But I quickly found out that coaches were against sharing their contact information.

    So, after actually trying to contact 75 coaches who had yellow page listings with this message, “I'm looking for a coach, give me a call.” And out of 75 not one called back. Then out of 150 listed on the internet in the Kansas City area, only 2 actually publish contact information on their website, at least where I could find it.

    And of those listed on LinkedIn most don't publish a website, nor email, nor contact iinformation.

    So, your article about “how much to share” is quite appropriate, but probably in a little different way than you had intended.

    As I talk with other coaches about why they do this, most women tell me they are afraid to publish their address or phone number, some from both genders tell me they are afraid of spam emails, etc.

    If someone wants to be hired as a coach, they want to be found for something, so why would they hide?

    In fact, I get about 500-600 emails a day, and fewer than 10-20 a day are from a prospective client. I deal with the junk emails with spam filters and love the other 10+ emails and calls a day that I get. In fact the way to get those is increase your visibility, and the bad comes with the good. But those running and hiding will never experience that kind of result.

  2. Lucylbutcher on July 26, 2010 at 1:07 pm

    Honesty is always the best policy and I admire your candid truthfulness and thoughts. You are one to be admired for sure!

  3. Kathy on July 7, 2010 at 5:04 pm

    Thanks for sharing with such transparency. I am inspired and grateful. I had this same debate with myself before blogging about my breast cancer journey. Ultimately, I decided it informed my current way of being in the world so much that I really had no choice. Plus, I felt modeling transparency as a life coach allowed me to be of service to others as I desire to be. Namaste.

    • Mari Smith on July 8, 2010 at 11:52 am

      Beautiful!!! Your comment here has made my day, Kathy. Congratulations on being a role model for many! I trust you're all clear now and stronger for the experience!! (My sister in Scotland just did the “Moonwalk” – 10,000 women walk all through the night in decorated bras – to raise funds/awareness for breast cancer research!) This is the 2009 video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuFy_cAQ07I So inspiring!!

  4. Lynn Baldwin-Rhoades on March 28, 2010 at 6:14 am

    Mari, you inspire me on so many levels. Thanks for your openness, your grace, and your luminous light that encourages me to embrace my own larger life. L.

  5. Tiffany Odutoye on February 16, 2010 at 6:13 am


    Taking a deep breath after that post.
    We can tell you are healing, and while the challenge you shared with us means a great deal, your wellbeing is too.

    I appreciate your leadership in the space of social media and as a good human being. You are in my prayers as the coming months will continue to be an adjustment for you both.


  6. Mari Smith on February 15, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    @Lorrie – you’re very sweet, thanks heaps, hon!! Yes indeedy, it’s been a smooth journey so far… though one dotted with interesting lessons along the way – noticing where I still get hooked, for instance. lol!

    So true re the oxygen mask!!


  7. Lorrie Morgan-Ferrero on February 14, 2010 at 6:58 pm

    Hi Mari,

    Thanks for sharing your transition. So happy you could do it smoothly and elegantly…at least it looks like that to us. 🙂

    I agree with Esperanza (love her) that you are the most important person in your life. It’s like being on an airline when the attendant tells you to put your own oxygen mask on before helping others. You can’t help anyone else if you can’t breathe.

    Can’t wait until our paths cross again.


  8. Donna Payne, The Web Coach on January 25, 2010 at 6:18 pm

    Hey Mari,

    I know this is way after the fact, but something that always helped me thru divorce (I’ve had two) is buying myself a fabulous, crazy-expensive DIVORCE RING!

    Fly… be free my friend… until love knocks on your door again.


  9. Gillian on January 19, 2010 at 6:25 pm

    I am SO late ctahcing up on this item of news in your life Mari.
    Nancy Marmolejo summed it up so eloquently when she says that you shared this “in such a beautiful and authentic way. Very classy and full of integrity.”
    May good luck accompany you on the path you are now travelling.

  10. Michelle on January 6, 2010 at 11:20 am

    So nice Mari to read the truth. Your truth.
    It resonated with me and I too went through a similar process – it takes a LOT of courage not only to face yourself initially but also to share it – with friends and family – and your network. You are an inspiration!
    Warm regards
    Michelle Hardwick of

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